“I am a left-handed” - one of our new teammates introduced herself during our new joiners meet. “Which hand do you use to code?” - someone joked. Why can’t we use both hands well? By the stats, right now, 13 million Indian can do that. Actually, our hands (legs, ears…) are equally strong, and it is our practice and the mind that brings this difference. Though you may find it difficult to lift dumbbells in one of your hands when you are new to the gym and you will eventually get it fixed. Of course, we are not going to fix the north-south magnetic field lines, nor we are going to stop the plant bending towards the sun.
How do you stop a mother loving her child? That love can inadvertently cause unfairness to some other kid outside the home. I always feel it is inhumane to lock the birds in a cage. You love the bird and wish to provide everything it needs. But your love is absolutely unfair to its life. What happens when you support a particular friend when you got another friend on the other side? It hurts though there could be no perceivable unfairness. I had seen a mentor who appraised two of his mentees differently when they underperformed because of the same problem (and assume there was no difference). Actually, he didn’t aware that he was taking a different stance. Maybe, someone would have spotted the same with me. We rarely pick our religion based on our evaluation of a few.
I can go on with this list. The point is simple. There are a few “one-sided”s that cannot be fixed, even if we wish and a few that we don’t want to fix. The remaining are those that we are unaware of our “one-sided”ness and that is where we can attempt to fix as fixing them could make things healthy. We cannot always be cautious and conscious, but we can progressively improve. Be aware and try to be fair whenever possible :)
Usually, I buy and read book suggested by my friends but no one suggested me to read the book "The Kite Runner by Khaled Hosseini". I neither heard about it before I accidentally bought it. I was looking for the books I planned to buy in the Chennai Bookfair 2011 and I found this book . There was something attractive, though it was not as beautiful as of many of the books cover design, it should be the cover of it, because all I could see was only the book cover. I took it in my hand and asked myself, should I buy this?, yes was the answer and I bought it. I completed reading this book last week, after keeping it the shelf for almost 2 years. I am glad I got this book. It is one of best books I read in the recent years. The phrase " For you, a thousand times over " lingering in the mind is the proof that I really enjoyed reading this book and moved so much ;) " I became what I am today at the age of twelve, on a frigid overcast day in the winter of 1975 &
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