You, as a young man, might be starting the conversation, naturally because you have the obvious advantage there. What is your favourite colour? That is a fairly easy question to ask. But then, you do rehearsal for this several hours along with other questions. Is the answer going to matter for the rest of your life? Oh, yes, may be, no! She says something and adds a little more information to indicate that it is a colour between magenta and strawberry which you think is pink. There, right there, you will realize that you should never ask a girl about colours.
Girls have the courage to say something as they can do while they themselves know that they cannot do. What is so wonderful about it is, typically it goes in their way either by luck or by their "smartness". As her "resume" doesn't say anything about her computer programming skills, you ask about her Java skill level. 3/10 is what she knows but says it as if it is 7/10. You know, this sort of question is one of those that she happily recalls forever in her life.
You dare to ask the advanced level question. You ask whether she could cook non-veg dishes. Yeah, instead you could have asked whether she would be comfortable in cleaning the utensils. Anyway, regardless of the answer, you should know that you need to improve your cooking skills and allow yourself to be part of the experiments that she would do in the future.
You meet her with elders as part of the bride seeing ceremony. You are allowed to have a conversation with her for sometime. Is that a time for checking for the match மனைத்தக்க மாண்புடையள் ஆகித்தற் கொண்டான் வளத்தக்காள் வாழ்க்கைத் துணை in her? Not really! All the statistics and facts are available "offline" and that may help. What would you talk to her there? You see, you won't really find anything really meaningful to talk there. After all, the best of married life is always the unplanned one that is still stays untroubled by the happenings. So, the best you can do is just to witness the little fear and tension in her making the hands tremble secretly because all you need is just the feeling of acceptance which you understand intuitively!
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And then comes the pre-wedding zone... You talk and talk... The best and worst things of past comes so vividly colored with supreme imagination. Perhaps it is the best of times to take notes for your auto biography. You ask stupid questions. You answer for stupid questions. You say stupid answers. You hear stupid answers. But you don't agree if someone say so because you know...
Kovil Pillai P.
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